gyp changes for OpenSSL 3 should be upstreamed to nodejs/gyp-next

[targos]

There are changes from two commits that aren't in gyp-next and are causing issues with nodejs/gyp-next#131:

• 66da32c#diff-ce0f0d38d4759b168312df150928ce52ab5c5f8f2b542fe3e4b5ed75aef23e95
• f4bd91b#diff-ce0f0d38d4759b168312df150928ce52ab5c5f8f2b542fe3e4b5ed75aef23e95

/cc @danbev

[targos]

Also #42986 if it lands.